• @[email protected]
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    609 months ago

    The thing that comes only with age is: to not give a fuck.

    When we learn that it doesn’t matter we can all be little old people who are purple mohawk headed, wearing clashing neon adidas jumpsuit with zebra primted boas.

    • ChihuahuaOfDoom
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      259 months ago

      I only learned this a few weeks ago at 40 years old, now my hair is blue, both my ears are pierced and I’m a lot happier. I told my 19 year old daughter that “what will people think?” has been my mantra, now it’s “fuck 'em”

      • @[email protected]
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        239 months ago

        "at 20, you care the world what everyone thinks of you

        At 40 you learn to not care what anyone thinks of you

        At 60, you realize nobody has been thinking about you at all, the whole time."

    • @[email protected]
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      9 months ago

      So what you’re saying is I should HODL my Bored Ape NFTs?

      /jk, broad stock & bond index funds are the way to go.

    • @[email protected]
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      59 months ago

      I did both. Mostly ETFs, then some companies I liked. I’m up 100% over seven or so years, but I do admit I got lucky on companies I liked. All EFTs are up a bunch, the safest way to go!

  • @[email protected]
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    479 months ago

    The sunk cost fallacy is a very easy way to get stuck being miserable.

    Sometimes a drastic change might be painful at the time but will be much better for you overall.

    • silly goose meekah
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      149 months ago

      I’m dreading the day my bad mouth hygiene will catch up to me… I know how bad it is but I still can’t get myself to brush every night.

      • DigitalDilemma
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        109 months ago

        If you’re like me, then some time in your thirties. I didn’t brush from early teens through until then - I had several abcesses and needed seven teeth removed, including my top fronts. Turns out I had undiagnosed autism, depression and low self image. Now I do brush, and it’s just a case of forcing myself to adapt to a routine. Even keeping some flouride mouthwash handy for a quick swill every now and then helps a bit. Hope you find your way.

  • MostRandomGuy
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    239 months ago

    That it doesn’t matter what other people think of me as long as I’m happy.

  • @[email protected]
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    239 months ago

    I’m a perfectionist and I realized I’ve been making life too hard for myself. Choosing a low bar for success but keeping the ceiling high has felt like a much healthier approach.

  • @[email protected]
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    209 months ago

    Your high school diploma. Nobody ever asks for it. No job I have ever held has asked for proof that I completed high school which I didn’t. My last job had a class they wanted me to take at a night school and that’s when they realized I didn’t have it after 7 years of competent, exceptional work, so they just shrugged and got me in there anyways

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    209 months ago
    • Any work or study done during an all-nighter is a waste.

    • If you meet someone and all they do is talk about themselves, they won’t be a good friend.

    • Nobody really cares how you look or what you wear. And anyone who does has bigger issues they would rather not deal with.

    • @[email protected]
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      129 months ago

      Any work or study done during an all-nighter is a waste.

      Depends. I did some of my best work at this time (private project. not for my actual workplace).

  • @[email protected]
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    169 months ago

    Relationships can be anything you want them to be. I wish I spent less time trying to figure out if someone liked me and just tried to have fun with everyone I met.

  • @[email protected]
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    149 months ago

    Not too late but later than I should have:

    • To seek professional mental health help
    • To understand that Bisexuality really exists. Growing up and in my teens in media and pop culture it’s seemed that you either were gay or straight, no other option.
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    139 months ago

    Manage your finances. Know where every penny goes. Budget as best as you can - plan for all of the things you know you spend money on through a year. It doesn’t mean you can’t spend money on things you like, but it does mean that you know when you can afford it. It gives you confidence and control no matter how much you are making.

    • @[email protected]
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      39 months ago

      There are some services I use that make like a million charges under a dollar. Those are really hard to manage so I use a privacy card with a spending limit to keep track of them.